{"id":734,"date":"2023-01-16T13:15:00","date_gmt":"2023-01-16T13:15:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/zaimovic.com.hr\/?p=734"},"modified":"2023-01-06T10:18:24","modified_gmt":"2023-01-06T10:18:24","slug":"moja-ocekivanja-od-majcinstva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/zaimovic.com.hr\/index.php\/2023\/01\/16\/moja-ocekivanja-od-majcinstva\/","title":{"rendered":"Moja o\u010dekivanja od maj\u010dinstva<\/strong>"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u0160to misli\u0161 koja su bila moja o\u010dekivanja kako \u0107e izgledati maj\u010dinstvo? Kako \u0107e izgledati imati dijete? Misli\u0161 li da se moja o\u010dekivanja razlikuju od tvojih?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Veseli me \u010duti \u0161to si ti o\u010dekivala! Stavi na papir sve \u0161to ti se javlja u mislima bez filtera je li to o\u010dekivanje bilo u redu ili nije, bez osje\u0107aja srama i krivnje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A ja, ja sam mislila da \u0107e mi biti lak\u0161e, da \u0107u se odmah sna\u0107i, da \u0107u se super osje\u0107ati kao mama jer sam bila stvarno sretna zbog trudno\u0107e i jedva \u010dekala bebu. Da znam, ludo. Ali, kad razmisli\u0161, \u0161to vidimo u dru\u0161tvu, kod prijatelja, na dru\u0161tvenim mre\u017eama?<\/strong> Sretne i nasmije\u0161ene obitelji, a ako i nisu takve, nego vidimo dijete u tantrumu ili kako iskazuje neku neugodnu emociju na nama neadekvatan na\u010din jer jo\u0161 nema razvijenu regulaciju emocija, razmi\u0161ljamo \u0161to bismo mi napravile druga\u010dije. Mo\u017eda nekome pro\u0111e i kroz glavu da se njihovo dijete sigurno ne\u0107e tako pona\u0161ati i vidi vraga, krene se tako pona\u0161ati.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

To nije ni malo \u010dudno niti se treba\u0161 kriviti ako tako razmi\u0161lja\u0161 jer u\u010di\u0161 druga\u010dije.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Na\u0161a o\u010dekivanja koja smo kreirali nisu bila temeljena na vlastitom iskustvu maj\u010dinstva, nego na iskustvu djeteta, sestre, odgajatelja, tete, susjede, prijateljice\u2026<\/strong> I naravno da su bila nerealna! Ne mo\u017eemo znati kako je to imati dijete sve dok ga napokon ne \u201edobijemo\u201c. Isto tako, ne mo\u017eemo znati kako je to imati dvoje djece, sve dok ih ne\u0107emo imati. Nije jednako biti mama jednom djetetu i majka dvoje ili troje djece. Svako dijete je pri\u010da za sebe<\/strong> i nije isto biti mama i biti stru\u010dnjak (u mom slu\u010daju). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mo\u017eemo imati hrpu znanja, ali opet se povedemo za nekim o\u010dekivanjima koja nisu u na\u0161im rukama, uspore\u0111ujemo djecu me\u0111usobno, ne s namjerom koje je dijete bolje ili naprednije nego imamo potrebu nekako si poslo\u017eiti u glavi \u0161to mo\u017eemo o\u010dekivati s drugim djetetom u pojedinoj fazi, u skladu s iskustvom s prvim djetetom.<\/strong> I onda shvatimo da pola toga nije isto i da je opet na nama da se uskla\u0111ujemo s novim okolnostima, da u\u010dimo i individualno pristupamo svakom djetetu. S o\u010dekivanjima za koje znamo da su nerealna jer o\u010dekivat \u0107emo uvijek ne\u0161to, to je u na\u0161oj prirodi, ali kad smo svjesne da druge osobe ta o\u010dekivanja ne moraju ispuniti, bude lak\u0161e, preusmjerimo se na sebe i \u0161to je u na\u0161oj mo\u0107i, \u0161to je u na\u0161im rukama, a ne u tu\u0111im.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u0160to se dogodilo tebi od kad si postala majka? Do koje mjere su se tvoja o\u010dekivanja ostvarila?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ne\u0161to vi\u0161e o mojem iskustvu ranog maj\u010dinstva poslu\u0161aj u drugoj podcast epizodi<\/strong> OVDJE<\/a> (prona\u0111i obje), a ovdje bih jo\u0161 istaknula da sam o\u010dekivala ipak malo vi\u0161e vremena za sebe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kroz vrijeme sam shvatila da ako \u017eelim vrijeme za sebe i brinuti o sebi<\/strong> da moram prona\u0107i neke druga\u010dije na\u010dine da si to osiguram. Uskoro ti donosim kratki e-book upravo na ovu temu za koji vjerujem da \u0107e unaprijediti tvoju brigu o sebi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ako \u017eeli\u0161 vi\u0161e info, pi\u0161i mi na mail iva@zaimovic.com.hr<\/a> ili me potra\u017ei na instagramu na @mamanijesamomama<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Veselim ti se!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0160to se dogodilo kad si postala majka? Do koje mjere su se ta o\u010dekivanja ostvarila?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Iva Zaimovi\u0107<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Zaprati me na dru\u0161tvenim mre\u017eama:
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